Episode 1
Introduction
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Transcript
Hello everyone.
Speaker:Welcome.
Speaker:I'd like to take this episode just to do an introduction to the real conversations
Speaker:about aging parents, where the idea came from, what the purpose is, what I think
Speaker:you might be able to get out of it.
Speaker:Um, so let's get started.
Speaker:So I am Rebecca Tapia.
Speaker:I am a physician that works in rehab medicine.
Speaker:And I've come to this topic in multiple ways.
Speaker:So first I'll, I'll start.
Speaker:Professionally and clinically, I have been at the intersection between life events,
Speaker:strokes, car accidents, brain injuries.
Speaker:Um, and families processing and dealing with those for 15 years,
Speaker:I've seen thousands and thousands of families, uh, adapt to these issues
Speaker:and watch the dynamics, um, not from the sidelines in the middle of it.
Speaker:Some of the times of trying to, the family's trying to
Speaker:grapple with and understand.
Speaker:Uh, change in functional status or a, uh, parent or loved one, um, that is suddenly
Speaker:needing more care, those types of things.
Speaker:So I've always been fascinated from that standpoint, but more so I came
Speaker:to it from, uh, being someone in my forties and noticing a transition
Speaker:just in talking to my friends.
Speaker:Uh, we used to talk about kids and diapers and preschools and, um, now we kind of
Speaker:talk about our parents and taking care of our parents or not, or how we feel
Speaker:about that with the cultural pressure.
Speaker:So some of the financial aspects of that, some of the emotional issues with
Speaker:that, making hard decisions, and it's not something I could find is really well
Speaker:talked about and I, I strongly believe that conversations and curiosity can.
Speaker:Help other people get prepared.
Speaker:You know, look at the preparation that goes into having a baby and
Speaker:there's, you know, a whole shelves of books dedicated to this and an
Speaker:industry around getting prepared.
Speaker:Um, but there really is a point in life, usually later in life where
Speaker:you're going to potentially be making decisions for or caring for a parent.
Speaker:And there aren't a lot of frank open.
Speaker:What I would call realistic conversations about how that looks.
Speaker:I really do think that the sticky, difficult, tough conversations
Speaker:are the most interesting.
Speaker:So this podcast is not gonna be about instruction.
Speaker:Of how you should show up for aging parents.
Speaker:In fact, there was one point in which I called the po.
Speaker:I was gonna call the podcast showing up for aging parents, and I had to
Speaker:stop myself and say, you know what?
Speaker:There are people who can't show up for aging parents, or it's not
Speaker:in their best interest to you.
Speaker:Or maybe they had a traumatic childhood and.
Speaker:You know, there's just some, it just seemed kind of loaded to
Speaker:say, showing up for aging parents.
Speaker:Uh, so I went to a pretty vanilla real conversations about aging parents
Speaker:and, um, that seems to fit well, uh, what we're gonna be doing here.
Speaker:So, what you're gonna hear in the podcast, it's gonna be a mix of, of just me
Speaker:talking about my thoughts, reflections.
Speaker:Is my, uh, lessons learned in my lifetime, both per professionally and
Speaker:personally, and you'll hear a large number of one-on-one conversations
Speaker:with real people, with real experience, with real lives that wanna share.
Speaker:Uh, I was very timid to start this podcast at first because I thought
Speaker:nobody would want to talk to me.
Speaker:This is a sensitive topic.
Speaker:There's all sorts of weird stuff to talk about, like incontinence, death
Speaker:and dying, and I thought, nobody's going to one, agree to be on my podcast,
Speaker:and two, nobody's gonna listen to it.
Speaker:And, and I decided just to start by asking around.
Speaker:And what I found was that the conversations to me were mesmerizing.
Speaker:And absolutely, uh, captured my attention not only through the power of using
Speaker:stories to help other people, but also just to, to honor what's happened to some
Speaker:of the people that are talking or their loved ones, and take what our largely
Speaker:difficult emotional experiences we're gonna talk about and, and translate those
Speaker:into, uh, lessons learned, help for people who are either entering this phase or
Speaker:have already gone through this phase.
Speaker:That feel alone, they feel isolated.
Speaker:And that's what these conversations are gonna focus on.
Speaker:One of the most rewarding parts of developing this podcast is for the people
Speaker:that I have these conversations with.
Speaker:To circle back and say, not only was that fun to talk about, but
Speaker:there was a lot of healing involved, which is sharing that story.
Speaker:It's not something they normally talk about and oftentimes talking to me as the
Speaker:first time they have ever talked about it.
Speaker:So what a cool experience that we can have them come on the show and share.
Speaker:So let's get over to a few caveats, uh, just ahead of time.
Speaker:I wanna be very transparent.
Speaker:One, the podcast is informational only.
Speaker:So nothing discussed in this episode or future episodes is, is ever
Speaker:meant to be formal medical advice, legal advice, financial advice.
Speaker:There are, are good professionals that you can seek, uh, in those areas.
Speaker:Number two is we are gonna talk about difficult adult topics.
Speaker:Um, death and dying is part of talking about aging, and if that
Speaker:makes you uncomfortable, this might not be a good podcast for you.
Speaker:Number three, again, these are adult conversations.
Speaker:Sometimes the language is gonna get to a little salty.
Speaker:I've had to clean up my own.
Speaker:A language for the podcast, but I imagine once I get to seasons two
Speaker:or three that, um, that, that bear, that wall might have to come down.
Speaker:But, um, and then the, the next one is that this is a, a judgment free you zone.
Speaker:So I don't bring people on the podcast to say, you know, Monday morning quarterback
Speaker:what they should or shouldn't have done.
Speaker:Um, what you're, what you're going to hear is a questioning, a curiosity.
Speaker:And that is really how I feel like we can get to the bottom of some of the thoughts,
Speaker:feelings, and emotions, uh, on this topic.
Speaker:The next is, this isn't going to be a should podcast, so we're not gonna
Speaker:come away from a conversation and say, look, look, see what she said.
Speaker:You should do this, or you should not do this.
Speaker:So you won't find any of that type of information here.
Speaker:Um, this, I, I think it's much more valuable to have people share
Speaker:and give their lessons learned and then have the listeners take what's
Speaker:meaningful to them and helpful.
Speaker:And then leave the rest behind.
Speaker:Um, but ultimately what I'm here to say is this is a passion of mine.
Speaker:I have thought about doing something like this for at least seven years.
Speaker:Um, I myself live with my grandmother.
Speaker:She's turning 90 this year.
Speaker:So I have that personal experience that's driving me to talk about these
Speaker:topics and, um, encourage other people to, to drop any kind of shame or.
Speaker:In decision or, or those types of things.
Speaker:On this topic, it's important and if we're gonna support ourselves, part
Speaker:of that is just getting prepared.
Speaker:Part of that is understanding.
Speaker:Part of that is finding a community where these types of things are discussed.
Speaker:So, I think I've talked long enough.
Speaker:I probably have a lot more to say, but I want to keep it short
Speaker:for my, my introduction here.
Speaker:I am so incredibly grateful and thankful that you would be listening to this.
Speaker:If you find these episodes helpful for you, valuable for
Speaker:you, please, please share them.
Speaker:Share them in your Facebook community.
Speaker:Share them, um, with your friends and leave me a review.
Speaker:That's the way that the podcast platforms work.
Speaker:That's the way we can share more of these messages with everybody else.
Speaker:Thank you so much.
