Episode 85

Doug: One day the shots won't work

Published on: 9th April, 2025

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In this episode of Real Conversations About Aging Parents, host Rebecca Tapia talks with Doug about his personal journey with his aging mother, who is currently in a nursing home. Doug shares insights into the emotional and logistical challenges involved, including the impact of his father's early death, his brother's passing, and his mother's health issues due to weight gain. The discussion covers the importance of pre-planning, having candid conversations about future care, and the financial and administrative aspects of long-term nursing home care. Doug also reflects on the emotional toll and the continuous need to adapt and find practical solutions.

00:00 Introduction and Setting the Scene

00:29 Doug's Background and Family History

01:28 Challenges with Aging Parents

04:44 Health Issues and Assisted Living Decisions

06:42 Transition to Nursing Home

11:40 Maintaining the Household

12:07 Selling the Car

12:43 Rising Costs of Care

13:52 Living Arrangements and Acceptance

14:26 Financial Concerns and Future Planning

14:54 Health and Support System

15:34 Challenges of Moving

16:20 Symbiotic Relationships

20:12 Power of Attorney and Financial Oversight

21:20 Preparing for the Future

25:00 Adapting to Nursing Home Life

25:53 Final Thoughts and Gratitude

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Real conversations about aging parents
Join me every week for REAL conversations about the ups, downs and sideways of navigating life with aging parents. We focus on mindset, education and collaboration through a willingness to discuss raw stories and all the sticky topics. Cultural pressure? Financial problems? Family dynamics? Fascinating!!
No judgement here. No shoulds. Just a bunch of people figuring this out together.

About the host:
I am a recovering perfect daughter, elective roommate of my 90 year old grandmother, and a rehabilitation physician who has seen *thousands* of families navigate the chaos that can occur when the unexpected happens (falls, strokes, etc). I've been taking notes and I'm ready to share and listen.

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